“If you cut your hair, you’ll never get a boyfriend. No man wants to deal with that nappy hair.”—
My hair dresser when I wanted to do the big chop and get rid of my relaxed hair. I was a teenager. I’m now 6 years natural. I felt like the way my body was naturally wasn’t pretty enough (via microaggressions)
My mom can’t stop talking about how much she doesn’t like my hair. She says that everyone is just being nice when they say they like it and that no one wants to tell me the truth. :(
L’esprit de l’escalier (stairway wit) is the sense of thinking of a clever comeback when it is too late. The phrase can be used to describe a riposte to an insult, or any witty, clever remark that comes to mind too late to be useful—when one is on the “staircase” leaving the scene. The German word treppenwitz is used to express the same idea. The closest phrase in English to describe this situation is “being wise after the event”. The phenomenon is usually accompanied by a feeling of regret at having not thought of the riposte when it was most needed or suitable.
Man, don’t you hate it when this happens? Also, I love that this feeling has a name!